I’m a life-long politics junkie. But I’m giving it up for my health. The constant vitriol coming out of Washington DC, its amplification on cable news, and the late night comics piling it on are leaving me exhausted.
Not only can those on the left and on the right not agree on anything, the expression of differences is mean-spirited and divisive. It’s gotten to the point that the issue itself — whether a second amendment or healthcare debate — is secondary to the goal of debasing the opposition. It’s unkind. And it’s unhealthy.
The rise of social media allows more expression of anger and derision, which has to be taking a toll on our mental and emotional health while increasing depression and anxiety. And there’s plenty of evidence that anger — expressed or not — raises risks of cardiovascular disease and weakens the immune system.
I hope we never have another 9-11. But I would love it if we could find a way to get back to the civility and courtesy shown by the traveling public (and society in general) in the months following the attack. Everyone was polite. Everyone was patient. Everyone was kind. Sadly, that wore off.
Most wellness professionals learn this early on: It’s difficult to get ornery people to change poor health habits, and upbeat people are more open to health improvement suggestions — as well as more likely to follow through. It’s a strong argument for encouraging those you serve to focus on getting past their surliness in order to achieve wellness. Some program themes:
- Be good to others. Treating others with respect, courtesy, and kindness is liberating — a way to enhance your own quality of life by contributing to a better work, family, and community environment. It creates positive energy that can be used to change health behaviors for yourself and those around you.
- Choose healthy habits. While everyone feels trapped at one time or another — in school, a job, or a relationship — no matter how constrained you may feel in other areas of your life, you do have the freedom to make healthy decisions.
- Make someone’s day… every day. Encourage participants to set aside 5 minutes every day to share a genuine compliment, show gratitude, or just express interest in the life of a coworker. They’ll come away feeling good and you’ll feel even better.
With careful execution, you can impart these themes as practical applications, without offending or sounding abstract and preachy:
- Role models. Everyone knows a high achiever who’s exceptionally gracious and kind. Write a feature article about them in your employee blog emphasizing how they excel at their vocation and achieve balanced living through service to others.
- Feature articles. Consider a series of daily health tips on the joys of civil behavior and benevolence as well as the freedom to choose.
- Parenting classes. Good manners, like good health habits, start at an early age. Teaching parents how to train children to respect others and act with kindness will reinforce adult civility and courtesy while helping parents be better examples.
For more ideas, read How to Launch a Workplace Kindness Challenge on the HESonline.com blog.
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This blog is awesome. Something I will try to adhere to on an on going basis. The rhetoric that comes across the airways, no matter what side you may be on, is overwhelming, unkind and disrepectful. Shame on America!
I completely agree. I am the Wellness Coordinator for the City of Santa Fe and our program is known for unfailing kindness and respect, reaching out to employees with programs and resources at their worksites. and providing services such as on site Yoga and upbeat challenges with prizes to increase the well being of our employees.
“Not only can those on the left and on the right not agree on anything, the expression of differences is mean-spirited and divisive. It’s gotten to the point that the issue itself — whether a second amendment or healthcare debate — is secondary to the goal of debasing the opposition.”
This. I have been explaining this to people as my reason for not getting involved in topics like politics, religion, etc.. for a while now. While I absolutely adore having conversations with people whose opinions differ from mine – especially if they differ vastly- it seems that no one is capable of having an actual conversation anymore. It always has to lead to them yelling, arguing, calling me names, etc… It’s just not interesting anymore.
I’d love to get back to a time when people could actually value the diversity of individual opinions, and remember that we are all human beings, with different thoughts, attitudes, opinions, etc. That’s what makes us all unique; interesting.
Dean, I feel the same way. The news media & social media have stripped away our civility; made it acceptable to berate one another. Even texting has turned into a faceless opportunity to be critical. I long for the return of civility. My morning walks and chats with my neighbours is one way I stay in touch with people, get to know them, & appreciate the diversity of my neighborhood. I’m off to deliver a hand knitted prayer shawl to an elderly neighbour this morning who I used to walk with once in a while. She had a bad stroke and can’t walk anymore.